How do you deal with changes in life? All the little, annoying changes that take place—you know, acquiring back fat when you never imagined such a thing existed. When I see myself in pictures, I am often taken aback. Who is that person? Sometimes I recognize her, but other times I see only my mom. And even though I still feel 30-something inside, I see an older woman staring back at me. Not all of that makes me happy, but I refuse to let it be something that stresses me out.
Maybe now is the time to take a quick inventory: am I accepting, fighting, or ignoring changes in myself? Lately, it’s been a royal mix. I’m okay with the additional grey color in my multi-colored mane. The wrinkles…well, I’ve pretty much had dry skin all my life, so wrinkles have been a part of me. Okay, there are more and they are deeper, but there isn’t much I can to do about that. I’m not pleased with the overall shift in my weight, or to put it more bluntly, the sagging. But (pun intended!), everything else seems to work fine and I have accepted my overall appearance.
So what do I do with this inventory? How do I move from acceptance to comfortable, and finally to at-home with how I look on the outside and feel on the inside? I lean on my mentors—the women who are older and that much wiser than me. These women have developed a stability and freedom that I yearn for. They are sassy, funny, smart, engaged, and real. My mentors have struggled and learned how to navigate life’s rough waters, emerging with a stronger sense of self after every storm.
If I can learn anything from them, then it is to move gracefully and purposefully ahead. Instead of yearning for the past, I aim to dance into my next stage. I’m sure I can do this…with a little help from my friends. Will you join me?