I can’t take it any more!
I don’t know what I’m doing.
I feel like a failure!
Statements like these are what I routinely hear from family caregivers. We are not trained to do this job and yet we think we “should” be able to do it on our own. When we get frustrated and don’t know what to do, who do we turn to?
I’ve been developing the Unexpected Caregiver Support groups—so that family caregivers can meet once a week and understand that they’re not alone. In these peer-to-peer run groups, I have seen family caregivers let out huge sighs of relief and gratefulness, knowing that they share this journey with many others. That their feelings aren’t unusual or crazy. And in these groups they can speak their feelings and trust that what is said in the group, stays with the group. We have built little communities of trust.
When you’re giving care to a family member, it’s not uncommon for your past issues to resurface. All those unresolved issues of childhood come bubbling up to present day and you are stuck with an overload of emotions. What do you do with the feelings? Who will understand?
Caregiver support is crucial. You can receive one-on-one support from me or I can help you start a support group. Contact me. I’m here to help.