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Self Doubt

Good grief! I took an extended break from sharing my thoughts in blog form. I am a speaker first and an author second. Writing down what I can easily express from a stage or over airwaves, takes more energy. I gave myself “time off,” and now that I’m wanting to return to my blog, self doubt creeps in about my ability to write.

The Words

Dread of the words—
that’s something I’ve learned.
Verse I have written
and verse I have burned.

From the doubt in my heart
the cruel whispers start:
“Weakling, you write
with a borrowed art.

The sheet is most lovely
when it is white.
Save its space for the word
that you cannot write.”

I stumbled across this poem by the Norwegian poet Hans Børli. When he writes about writing as “borrowed art,” I imagine many family caregivers feel like they are giving care with “borrowed energy,” “borrowed time,” or even “borrowed love.”

The outdated aphorism, “Fake it ’til you make it” has a place both in writing and in giving care. Neither caregiving nor writing are about being perfect; rather, each has more to do with expressing from the heart. As I venture back into my blog, I hope my heartfelt words encourage family caregivers who often feel at a loss. Sometimes the blank page or, as many of my caregivers relay to me, the blank days, can be overwhelming. Move past your self doubt. Dive in.Try something new. Remember to stay S.A.N.E.™

S.A.N.E.—Supported, Appreciated, Not Guilty, and Energized