Monthly Blog Archives: May 2017

Take 15 to get SANE

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I am delighted to interview guests and produce my radio show. I also derive great pleasure from sharing my new bookThe Unexpected CaregiverHow to keep Mom & Dad safe, active, independent and yourself S.A.N.E. I write and speak on staying SANE while giving care because I know how important it is to remain balanced. Trying to care for someone else—especially family—can be calamitous if your internal messages are giving you bad advice. The SANE Method helps you get out of that emotional chaos and move into a balanced approach to giving care.

Now you can take fifteen minutes and learn a little about staying SANE. Teri Knight recently interviewed me on her weekly radio segment, “15 With the Author.” She asked me to start by reading the first paragraph of the Preface, written by Robert V. Taylor:

“Caregiving is a journey into the heart of the unexpected and the unknown. At its very worst it creates resentful caregivers or angry martyrs. At its finest it is an invitation into the depths of what it means to be human and shines a light on life that we could never have imagined.”

Robert’s words beautifully sum up the yin and yang of giving care. I invite you to take a small amount of time to listen to our upbeat conversation about how to use SANE to care for yourself while giving care to others.

I also encourage you to read my book and to remember to use the SANE Methodto help you tackle the highs and lows of caregiving. You, too, can experience the joy and fulfillment often found in providing care for family, loved ones and friends.

 

YOAD—Alzheimer’s isn’t just for the old anymore

While waiting for a flight, I scanned The Times of London. The sidebar on page 14 read: “Dementia kills man, 40.” I was immediately troubled by how we continue to report dementia as a disease. Dementia is a general term for decline in mental abilities. Dementia happens because there is a brain injury or illness. The person mentioned as “one of the youngest reported to die from dementia,” had damage in his frontal and/or temporal lobes of the brain. That damage had caused the dementia, named “Frontotemporal dementia.”

brain_witelsonMaybe it’s because I’m in the field of aging and family caregiving that I want us to have a better understanding of diseases that cause life-altering dementia. I wish that more people understood these diseases, especially as we’re seeing more cases in younger people.

Young Onset Alzheimer’s Disease (or YOAD) is often misdiagnosed as depression or simply “change of life” issues for women. I interviewed a man on my radio show who struggled for years to get an accurate diagnosis. He started noticing changes in his mental capacity at age 39 and his doctors came to the same conclusion: he suffered from stress.

I personally know people with YOAD and it is incredibly difficult to be in public with them. We simply aren’t trained in how to respond to older adults with Alzheimer’s disease and we’re even less prepared to handle awkward conversations with younger people who have YOAD. I remember being in a fabric store with a friend who has YOAD. Someone approached her and said, “I love your jacket; where did you get it?” That was too much information thrown at her far too quickly. She couldn’t answer. I put my arm around her and said, “I remember when you got this jacket, but I can’t remember where you got it.” (My friend shook her head in agreement.) I know it’s your favorite.” (And she again agreed with a smile.) The inquiring stranger accepted that answer.

When you suspect someone is struggling to communicate or if you know someone has YOAD, be extra kind, but don’t treat him or her like a child. If they can’t verbalize, help them out in the most supportive way you know how.