Monthly Blog Archives: January 2013

We All Need Support On Our Caregiving Journey

I can’t take it any more!
I don’t know what I’m doing.
I feel like a failure!

Statements like these are what I routinely hear from family caregivers. We are not trained to do this job and yet we think we “should” be able to do it on our own. When we get frustrated and don’t know what to do, who do we turn to?

I’ve been developing the Unexpected Caregiver Support groups—so that family caregivers can meet once a week and understand that they’re not alone. In these peer-to-peer run groups, I have seen family caregivers let out huge sighs of relief and gratefulness, knowing that they share this journey with many others. That their feelings aren’t unusual or crazy. And in these groups they can speak their feelings and trust that what is said in the group, stays with the group. We have built little communities of trust.

When you’re giving care to a family member, it’s not uncommon for your past issues to resurface. All those unresolved issues of childhood come bubbling up to present day and you are stuck with an overload of emotions. What do you do with the feelings? Who will understand?

Caregiver support is crucial. You can receive one-on-one support from me or I can help you start a support group. Contact me. I’m here to help.

Music Makes the World Go ‘Round

(Thanks for your patience! I’ve corrected the radio link at “Listen in.” I will get this!)

I had the pleasure of interviewing Music Therapist Michele Hirokowa. Her explanations of just how music can be used as a therapy with your loved ones is clear and right on. Music can change a mood, calm you down, or simply keep you company in the background. But music also has powers to evoke memories, both good and bad. Melissa explains how working with a trained therapist can help process those emotions. Besides that, she’s just a whole lot of energy and fun. Listen in.

And speaking of using music to bring people together, Read more »

Who wants to talk about incontinence products and wipes?

Lynn Wilson (listen to our interview here) along with her husband Tom do! They own The CareGiver Partnership and answer phone calls every day from family caregivers who need incontinence and other care products.

I can’t imagine ever having to help my dad with incontinence or bathing issues. I’m sure many of you shudder just thinking about it. It’s not uncommon: your mom is in the hospital and at discharge time, you are told that she will need help with bathing and toileting. Read more »